SAY YOU'RE NOT OK WHEN YOU'RE NOT OK.

Lately I've been unpacking the programming of always saying, "Things are good! I'm good!' when people ask me how I'm doing.

I've felt guilty telling the truth, like no matter what the circumstances, no matter how how bad it is, Ive been taught to always put on a smile and say it's all good. 

Make it look like it's easy.

No one wants to hear your sad story and negative shit, right?

Here's the thing, sisters:

IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT TO SAY YOU'RE NOT OK WHEN YOU'RE NOT OK. 

And over the last few weeks, I have not been ok.

Drowning in my new role as a mom of a newborn and two littles under 5. Overwhelmed. Exhausted. Scared. Guilty. Resentful. Depleted.

BUT, one of the bravest things I've done over the last few weeks when people have asked how things are going has been saying:

I'm lonely
I'm drowning
I'm tired
I'm hungry
I'm breaking
I NEED HELP.

And guess what? Some of those people have come forward and helped me. Cooked a meal. Watched my older kids. Held the baby so I could shower. Held space and just let me cry. 

So no matter if you find yourself struggling as a mom, in a relationship, at work, in sobriety or with any type of situation...

Please know that admitting that you need help is the bravest, strongest thing you can do. 

Let's talk about hard things.

xo
Bri

P.S.-If you are suffering and need support, please reach out to a trusted person in your life. And if you can't think of a person you trust, please reach out to me.